Help me!! My newborn won’t stop crying or sleep without being held!!?
My daughter is 16 days old.
She will not sleep in her bassinet but must sleep on this tempurpedic pillow next to me on my bed. She will not stop crying in the day without being held on my lap or chest. I can’t get anything done during the day because she will not let me put her down. i wait until she has been sleeping for a while and then put her on her bed but she wakes up after a couple minutes and starts crying. She acts like shes hungry but when i try to feed her she screams and doesn’t want iit. or will start feeding but get frustrated and choke or cry. She is crying so much and I don’t know what to do. its driving me insane and I feel like a horrible mother who doesn’t know what shes doing. I wish i could give her toys to occupy her interest but she is too young I guess and they don’t do anything for her. Does she have gas problems or what?? Please someone help me, Im losing it here.
Put her down and re-group. Relax. Take a few deep breaths and try again.
I think your baby is very hungry judging by the other questions you have posted.
Some days will be like this too. I have a 4 month old and some days I cant get anything done, but oh well, baby comes first- the dishes and shower can wait.
If her cryin greally persists, take her in to the ER or her doctor asap.
And please remember, no matter how frustrated and crazy you feel you’re going, never shake a baby.
Do you have a baby sling or other soft carrier? They are quite lifesaving.
With a sixteen-day-old baby you should be sleeping, nursing, changing dipes, cuddling your baby, and very little else. The time will just fly, and you can’t get the lovely newborn phase back.
Try a vibrating infant seat and stick a pacifier in her mouth. It worked for my 3rd child.
she may have colic… is her belly hard when shes crying??? if not then play her some soft music so that when shes crying (it will make her tired) it will help drown out any noise that may wake her. its ok to let the baby cry sometimes, just for them to know they are ok and not be spoiled.
GOOD LUCK!
Welcome to motherhood! If you need to get things done around the house but can’t…try wearing your daughter. You can get loads of things done that way. It is very important at this age to create that bond between you and your child. Newborns need to be touched and comforted. They love the closeness of their mother (or parent) Please don’t let your child cry it out (CIO) They cannot be conditioned (or trained ) at such an early age….that is more for when they are like two or three. This will pass…believe me I know and trust me it will. Good luck! Think about getting a wrap and look into wearing your child. Google attachment parenting…it is a wonderful way to parent your child.
well how are you putting her to sleep?put her on her right side in the bassinet when you are putting her to sleep.but for now to see if she stops crying lay her over your lap on her belly and pat her tush or rub her back holding the pacifer and her head in the other hand. also you could put her on her stomach she might like it but dont leave her like that to sleep.is she constipated??if you think she is havn problems going to the bathroom use milacon its for gas also.
This was my baby!! don’t worry it will get better..usually with fussy babies it peaks around 2-3 weeks and gets better by 3 months..I know it is hard but you just have to have patience with your little one..
I think your baby is fine. Some babies are just a little more needy than others. Try getting a sling or a carrier to where she can feel you and see your face but to where your arms are free and you can work a little bit. For her sleeping problems, I would say put her in the bassinet and talk to her and sing to her while she is looking at you and wait until she falls asleep. Hope this helps!
She might have a gas problem. You could try those mylicon drops. But she is just a new baby. She was used to be in tight quarters and always touched. Try swaddling her if you don’t already. When my kids were born they wanted to sleep upright so they slept in a bouncy seat. Also you could try a swing. The motion may keep her content. If all else fails buy one of those slings that go around your back so you can carry the baby hands free. Best of both worlds for you and her. Those carriers are good but the baby needs to be at least 8lbs. If none of that works you might just have to wait it out a few weeks til she gets a little bit older. I promise you it won’t last forever and I know first hand how frustrating it can be dealing with a newborn. You are doing everything you can. Don’t even think you are a horrible mother. Good luck to you and if I think of anything else I’ll add it………..oh a pacifier. They saved my life. She might just need some extra suck time. Its comforting to them. Try all that and something is bound to work.
my grandma says all u have to do is put a shirt or something in there with them because all they want is your scent
First of all, don’t feel guilty over your frustation. It’s normal. Your baby is too young for toys, so forget that. She may have colic, which lasts about 3 months. Try giving her some gripe water, or diluted chamomile tea. Consult your pediatrician about this, as well. Hold her, cuddle her as often as she needs it. This will pass.
Try carrying her in a sling. That way you can get things done and she will be happy.
At this age they really just love to be cuddled. Just think she was inside of you for 9 months so it is so different being "out" for her.
I know it is hard but let everything else wait. They are only babies once and you will miss her being this little.
Do you have anyone that could come over and help you with the things that need to be done so you are free to just snuggle up with her?
She could have reflux very common these days take her to your Dr they have medicine even for a newborn it can make all the difference. If she has reflux the acid in her belly is coming up and burning her throat it would explain why she is able to fall asleep sitting up when she is laying down the acid may be coming up. Don’t suffer any longer take her to your Dr and ask about it
child care is a full time job and definetely hard work. i give a lot of respect for stay at home parents, especially when theyre that young. when my little one was that age she liked a lot of background noises. seemed strange to me too, but when we had the hair dryer running she would sleep……well, like a baby. supposedly noises such as that remind the baby of the sounds when she was in your womb.
Oh I know how you’re feeling!! I went through this with my first born. Sometimes I would fall asleep with her "on" my chest. (She is 6 now, so it wasn’t a safety issue). It ended up being a problem with her formula, and also because I wasn’t burping her enough. She needed to be burped really often and had gas a lot of times. Make sure you let her sit up somewhat after meals instead of laying her on her back. You didn’t say if you were breastfeeding, but assuming you’re not check with her pediatrician and see if there’s a different formula you can try (Enfamil Nutrimigen worked for my daughter after trying many). Also, my daughter was constipated and switching the formulas helped with that too.
Try and stay calm and don’t get frustrated with her because they pick up on that and it just makes them cry more.
I also let my babies all sleep on their tummies in their bassinet. Wow what a difference. I am a very alert sleeper and checked on them often but it was so much better. They also used pacifiers which helps. I don’t want to recommend it for you, since all doctors say not to do it, but it was necessary for my kids (they all had reflux and honestly I was more concerned with them choking on spit up laying on their backs than letting them sleep on their stomachs in a firm empty bassinet!)
Good luck, and know that you can always call your pediatrician for advice or concerns.
Edit: I just read that you are breastfeeding on one of your other questions. It may be that you have really active letdown (I had this), where your milk comes spraying out really quickly. If so, you can try stopping it for a second with your finger over your nipple and then starting feeding again. Also, pay attention to your diet, eating broccoli and some other things may cause her to have gas or an upset stomach. And still with the burping, do it really often, she may need to burp more than once in the middle of a feeding.
) You’re doing everything right, and all of the things you are describing are very normal. Every first time mom goes through it, it just takes some trial and error before you get it all figured out.
i would possibly bring her to the doctor just to rule out a ear infection, most babies do not want to be put down at all if they have a ear infection, laying down hurts the ears and so does sucking, my son did this at two weeks and found out he had a slight ear infection, he also has acid reflexes that made him always want to eat but he would spit up lots and lots so he would scream and arch his back while he was eating. it could be that she is just colicky as well, where babies will go hours and hours crying and screaming and there isnt much you can do. your not a bad mother, in fact you are a good mother for wanting to find out what is wrong with her, its hard to have a crying baby and it makes it harder when you cant know what they want and distinguish there crys yet, for now i would just call the doctor and ask them what you can do, with aiden i proped his bassinet up(putting a blanket or pillow under neath the matress. to me it does sound like an ear infection and if the crying gets worse tonight just bring her to the ER and they can help just as well. good luck to you and your baby, every thing will definitly get better…i promise…also those slings to come in handy and it soothes the baby.
Oh honey, 16 days is still very new and very needy. I felt the same way and wanted to come home from hospital and get everything done. I was trying to clean and take care of my child. She is now 8 weeks and still has needy times. I have learned from many others to ask for help and if that is not available then take your time. At this age you cannot spoil them and it is important to pick them up when crying so they feel secure. It will take time and they will be less needy. Just get a little done at a time. That is what I do still. When I can get her to lay down for a few minutes or hours I try to sneak in whatever household chores needed. It was hard for me to adjust and I was getting very upset. Now I know that she is only this small once…I can clean and make up for other things later…
LMAO.. omg.. im sorry to laugh but you sound liek me 3 months ago… lol(my baby girl is just over 3 months) but you explained her to a T.. she was the exact same way.. and all i ever heard from everyone was"its your own fault your spoiling her put her down and let her cry).. sounds liek your liek me and cant do that either lol… i guess all i can say is… it DOES get better.. mines still needy and wants to be held.. but not nearly as much as before.. shes getting bigger and learning to entertain herself more…excersaucer.. jumper.. and seats with hangy toys now that shes learning to grasp.. SOOO.. there is a light at the end of the tunnel… just gotta stick it out longer…. good luck momma.. lol
Reflux & Colic is to early to be sure. Most people will say these are her problem. It’s not Babies need there mommy more than most people realise, if she is happy with you wear her and if your worried about her being in your bed you can actually buy a barrier to put in your bed so that you dont harm your child. I feel your frustration my miss moo was exactly the same until she started day care and I went back to work.
do u swaddle/wrap her? my son is 2 months and still loves to be swaddled when he sleeps!!! if you can’t swaddle with a receiving blanket, like me, they make velcro swaddlers…called swaddleme – babiesrus. they are awesome!! good luck!!
It could be colic, alot of babies are like that when they are colicy, otherwise it could just be that she wants to be close to you. After being in the whomb for so many months it’s kinda scary not being cuddled and kept close where she can heart your heart beat. You can try a vibrating chair or a swing.
My baby girl had a lot of gas. So I gave her drops in her formula if you are breast feeding then just drop it in her mouth. then lay her stomach down on your legs and pat her back do whatever to put pressure on her stomach and relieve the pain but talk to her too she will learn to listen for your voice for comfort some people think that babies do that with moms right away and that isn’t always he case they need reassurance that they are cared for and loved and safe. you could try laying her on her stomach and move her legs like she is riding a bike like rotate each leg knee to chin it will help chase her gas out. or if she hasn’t pooped much then use a therm. and lotion or Vaseline and stick the therm up her butt she will react and push it out and relieve pressure and push the poop out. try giving her a little more water then normal if that is the case she is dehydrated if she can’t poop.